One of the keys to attaining happiness is to develop self-esteem. However, this attribute must be based on internal values such as being virtuous and adhering to high moral standards. There is evidence to show that self-esteem that is predicated on external factors provides only a false sense of self-value. Research shows that those who base their self-worth on external sources, including their appearance and what others think about them, are more likely to experience stress, anger, academic problems, relationship conflicts, higher levels of drug and alcohol use, and symptoms of eating disorders. Even basing self-worth on a seemingly noble pursuit such as excelling at work is likely to produce more conflict with higher-ups and stress.

If your image of yourself is based on external factors, you are likely experiencing stress, anxiety, or depression right now. In that case, we suggest that you call NORTHSHORE BEHAVIORAL HEALTH right away. Our kind and compassionate therapists can help you understand why you have an external locus for your self-esteem and will offer strategies to help you develop a more resilient sense of worth based on internal values. Call our 24-hour line at 1- 800-366-8777 any time you need our help. We are located at 9 Dartmouth St., Bayridge and 35 North Main St., Boynton Beach.